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Bev Anne

Lives in CanadaUpdated Nov 17

Why do narcissists discard children?

Why do narcissists discard children?

Not so sure that they all do this. At least not physically anyway. Mentally of course, they discard everyone.

The diagnosed one I knew hasn’t physically discarded his children…at least not yet. Not sure he ever will. He needs them, after all. To make him look and even feel, good…and normal.

He believes that he is father of the year and he seems to need to believe that.

He is also working out his horrible past through his children. I swear that is why he wanted children. To prove something about himself to everyone who knows him.

As destructive as he had been to them psychologically by involving them in his own various problems etc, I cant imagine him ever freeing them from his disordered grip.

He won’t. They will be the ones who will have to ditch him…if that ever happens. They are likely brainwashed into thinking that he loves them and that their family is not dysfunctional. They don’t know any different so far.

His children were paramount to his image of being a great guy. Discarding them would never do. It wouldn’t look good to others. He was very smart that way. He knew exactly how to play the victim of a man who seemingly ‘lost’ his family to a ‘bad and nonappreciative’ wife leaving him, when in reality he caused the demise all by himself.

He was also well aware that children are veritably trapped with their parents, which he wielded like a knife. Their entrapment was a real bonus to him. He won’t let that go. No way.

He used the children for many self serving things…so that he himself could appear normal and ‘good’, to forever stay in their mother’s life and harass her, and also to garner other family members as enablers in the erroneous belief that family was everything to him.

He mostly used his children as pawns to torture their mother, his ex wife. He delighted in the fact that she couldn’t get rid of him because they have children together.

He wanted to turn them against her, so he won’t discard them as long as he can do that.

He seemed to believe that any one who is a parent, is a great person…yet on the other hand…according to him, he was the only good parent there ever was.

He is not respectful of any other parents (including his ex wife or anyone else for that matter). Only he as a parent matters as a parent. Everyone else is not as good as he is at it.

Weird, as usual.